Friends

Starting this coming Sunday (September 16th) we are beginning a new series called “Which Door Do I Choose?”  Have you ever walked into a building where there were 4 doors to pick from?  If you are like me, you start talking to yourself and wondering which door do I choose, which is the right door for where I’m going?  This is a lot like life; we have so much to choose from, and sometimes it’s hard to know which door to pick. 

Did you know that you and I must choose to be who God wants us to be?  So, let me ask you a question, what matters most in your life?  It all starts with God.  He embodies truth.  What is right and wrong gets its meaning in the character of God Himself.  Dishonesty is wrong because God is honest.  Unfaithfulness is wrong because God is faithful. You can know truth by looking at how God interacts with us.

What do you think is the biggest reason people struggle to make the right choices?  Overwhelmingly, fear is the answer.

•Fear of the unknown

•Fear of failure

•Fear of getting hurt

•Fear of what others will think

•Fear of rejection

•Fear of missing out on something better

•Fear of making the wrong decision

Moses is a good example of a person in the Bible that we can look to for guidance on how to choose wisely.  If you study him, you will discover he struggled with the same things you and I do today.  He did not get it right every time, but he kept trying each day and in each situation.  He finally started making good decisions based on what mattered to God. We call that Value.  What does God value?  If you read Hebrews 11:26 NIV, “He (Moses) regarded disgrace for the sake of Christ as of greater value than the treasures of Egypt, because he was looking ahead to his reward.”  He chose God’s way, not the easy way nor the world’s way.

Moses clarified what mattered most to him.  Let me ask you this question again: What matters most in your life?  Think about it like this, what are the top three things you value most in your life? Can you name them easily? 

If you can’t, then you certainly can’t live by them.  You are not living your values if you can’t even name them.  Before you go one more day, you need to sit down and ask, “What’s most important to me?  What are the top values in my life?”  And you need to write them out, because until you clarify your values, you can’t live by them.

Moses chose God’s values over the world’s values.  Why is this so important?  Because if you don’t decide what’s important in your life, other people are going to decide for you.  They are going to push you into their mold.  And you are going to live your life by their values, not yours.  You have got to decide what’s most important to you and then live by those values.

If this is not tough enough then you realize that life is full of gray areas; choices that individuals or families can make—and even biblically defend, whichever side of an issue they may come down on.  When faced with an unknown that could be argued either way, consider the following criteria.  I started using Romans 14:19 Message, “So, let’s agree to use all our energy in getting along with each other.  Help others with encouraging words; don’t drag them down by finding fault.”

There are 4 reminders that will help you make the right decisions. 

• Chose Wisely.

While you may theoretically feel the freedom to indulge in a pleasure or activity, permission alone should not be the final determinant in your decision-making.  What if you and your family would be better off if you chose to forego something, even if you felt a personal green light yourself for doing it?  Would not forgoing it be the wiser way to go?

• Chose to Love

Look at 1 Peter 4:8 Message, “Most of all, love each other as if your life depended on it. Love makes up for practically anything.”  Love for others, not your own preferences and desires, should be a main filter that every decision of yours runs through.  Your actions or decisions may be fine on a superficial level, but do they stand up to the test of love?

• Chose to Be Uplifting

Choices are never made in a vacuum.  They either build up or cause damage to those who observe you.  Especially in families, kids tend to embrace what their parents tolerate.  So, when gauging the wisdom of doing something, don’t think only of its rightness or wrongness.  Think about who it may affect.

• Chose to Care

Others will be much quicker to notice your behaviors than to ask you for your reasons and rationales for why you are okay with them.  Realizing this, will the silent perception you are sending be one that helps protect the people you influence, or will it do more harm and raise more questions?

God will reward those who wisely invest their lives.  Everything we have been given really belongs to God.  Do not let fear or greed keep you from thinking through how you can use all you have been given to live a life that is successful.  Prayerfully seek the Lord, asking how you can invest your time and talents into something that is eternal.

Don’t let others make your choices for you. Let God mold you into who you are meant to be!

Come and join us for great new series. 

Make Every Day Count!

Barry